We live in this age that if you do something stupid the whole world could know via social media.
Although cases of teenage binge drinking and troublesome acts have decrease over the past decades, today they have become more prominent because of the ease of being able to share stories, which were once community or family known, to become a part of the world’s knowledge.
Whilst fewer teenagers are being irresponsible with alcohol and sex today, are these teenagers who are playing mischief with alcohol and sex worse than those decades ago?
I don’t know the answer, but I’m going to make the assumption as to yes. My reasoning is because of what is seen and classed as okay through the media. Over the past couple of decades we have moved from a woman hiking up her skirt to see a bit of her thigh and the top of her stockings as being risky, to teenagers tramping around in their underwear in public as acceptable.
In Natalia Kills song Saturday Night she outlines the teenage tragedy:
And I’ll put on my dancing shoes real tight,‘Cause it’s just another Saturday night…Another fist, another wall,We lose ourselves we lose it all,I wrote him a hundred times,Can you hear my heart through the prison bars?The boys I kiss don’t know my name,The tears I cry all taste of blame,Bad luck and dirty cops,I’m a ****ing teenage tragedy,…Pills fall like diamonds from my purse,Right out the hole in my fur coat,Straight down the gutter goes my antidote to a broken girl,I promise I’ll be the one you want,Don’t tell me I’m unfixable,You don’t know what it’s like to be seventeen with no place to go,
Most music today is meaningless, although the artist may put a lot of thought into their lyrics; it is not often they’re understood or thought about.
My string of thoughts that come from this song may be different from what Natalia Kills intended, and that is the great thing about music - it is up for interpretation depending on the listener.
Saturday Night tells a story of a typical teenager who has fallen down the tragic path of being lost and tangled up in the mistaken path of teenage life.
Saturday night comes around and the first unthinkable action that comes is putting on your dancing shoes and heading out for the night. What happens next is all a part of the tragic teenage life.
They making out with countless people that they don’t know, emotions start riding high, fights break out, drugs become a natural norm. What started out to be a fun Saturday night then turns into a mess and society gives you the steer for falling into that trap.
And what more, the biggest part of the ‘teenage tragedy’ is that you don’t learn from your mistakes. When Saturday night comes around again the same path is followed.
But we make this all seem okay for the ones who are doing it, the ones who are getting into trouble.
The roast busters case of these teenage boys getting girls drunk then sexually exploiting them is a part of the teenage tragedy. And maybe this is the case that is finally going to make parents sit down with their children to knock this tragedy out of them.
The only reason the roast busters case is getting the attention is because young girls were in harm’s way. Those are the demographic that plays with emotions to seek out actions. Young girls and old woman play with heart strings; both vulnerable when attacked and emotionally connected to the community when something happens.
For the last decade we have dehumanised society and made these actions alright because of the content that is available on TV. Jersey Shore, the Kardashians, the GC, Big Brother and countless other reality programs that dehumanised people and puts pressure on societies youth to join in.
These actions get around the school yard and it is then cool to drink alcohol before you hit puberty. Then it is cool to go out and kiss countless other people. Then it is cool to have sex just for the fun of it. This pressure is circulating around our schools and makes kids do stupid things because their peers were making fun of those who didn’t get sexually involved.
Teenagers are jumping into this world without the knowledge of sexually transmitted diseases and the right way to protect themselves.
There is so much more to kissing and sex that isn’t understood until a more mature age. I am still not in the mind that understands that yet.
These activities used to be a special interaction between two people that created a strong bond. But now teens are giving that away willy nilly and it wears away their chances of being able to truly commit in life.
Peer-pressure is the fault in all walks of life. It is what leads us all to make bad decisions and they may haunt us for a very long time.
I don’t know how I can teach any teenager not to fall for peer-pressure, but I can tell you if you fall into that trap it isn’t going to make you a better person.
Bill O’Reilly wrote a book call The O’Reilly Factor for Kids, it was the best book that I ever read when I was a teenager. It told me that I didn’t need to fall for social pressures, and gave me a great understanding on how to life my life to achieve the most out of it. Whilst I still have a lot of teething problems and have really bad days where I feel ‘what’s the point’, I can say I’ve lived a life (to date) where I don’t have my past haunting me.
O’Reilly told teens in his book that you don’t need to jump into sex. His friends that jumped into sex when they were young lived to regret that decision. They got girls pregnant, they got married young and lived horrible lives and the children suffered. He said that he didn’t have sex until he was 20, he thought he was a loser. But then he realised that he didn’t make the mistakes that he friends did because they got active too early.
What I’m wanting to emphasis is that these actions are not deciding events in your life. If you are on track to become a high brow lawyer, the fact that you had sex at 16 or 26 isn’t going to play a role in your career.
The great British comedian Jimmy Carr didn’t have sex until he was 26 and he is still a tremendously funny comedian who has been very successful.
Don’t jump into that part of life too fast. It doesn’t make you cool because you’ve slept with x many people of the opposite sex. It is only going to give you commitment problems down the road, and all those people you slept with are going to be barriers you’ll need to cross when you find the right person to settle down with.
The Teenage Tragedy needs to become the Teenage Atrocity. It is time to make this preventable, and it all starts with education. TV is scripted for your entertainment, not to be performed on the streets of real life.